Sometimes the challenge lies not on the road ahead, but on the road within. Our penchant for stability in life is often explained off as a kind of risk mitigation – but what if what we are truly trying to mitigate is the change in us that life surely brings. We are loathe to change rapidly because who we are today is a collection of years of experience, emotion and interpretation. For that sole reason love is both exhilarating and terrifying. We change, we adapt, all so we can accommodate the existence of another into our own – and it requires a kind of temporary insanity which is just what love is. This is also why heartbreak is the ultimate disaster. All that inner change, the adaptation of hopes and dreams – all for what seem like naught. The worst part is that we have to unlearn being with that person, the ultimate insult on the ultimate injury. But sometimes, just sometimes, we are better for it.
Akin Ogunsola | November 2012
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